Friend Test

                   Would you pass the Friend Test? Seriously would you? Take a look around at everybody you call a friend, even the ones you call a friend only when they are around. Now ask yourself am I a real friend to all these people. Now if the answer to that is yes that's great. If it's not maybe some of those people should cut you out of their lives. Harsh? Maybe. Honest? Yes. Now out of these people you call "friends" how many of them are real friends to you? Okay, now the ones that are, great. The ones that aren't maybe you should cut them out. Okay now your saying to yourself, I can't be a real friend to everybody all the time. Umm why not? If they are your friend shouldn't you be their friend. And this doesn't mean talking to them all the time, doing every favor they ask, hang out all the time. But it does mean doing what you say you'll do, doing favors you agree to do, and being there when they truly honestly need you. Like say they fall break their leg and need a ride to the hospital, you have a car, you aren't doing anything but it's inconvenient to drive over and take them. Well too bad you'd want your friend to do it for you, so by goodness do it for them. Now if you are 300 miles away you can't really do that. You are stuck at work and can't leave or you something, fine. But not just because it inconveniences you. Now your saying I don't want to cut out the people I am not really a friend to but they are a true friend to me. That's right why cut out the person you are using to help you out in life. They are willing to take the friendship without me being a real friend why should I change that? Short answer, because it'd be the right thing to do DUH. If you don't want to put the effort forth to be their friend don't but don't call them your friend when it's convenient to you. Now people probably won't cut out the people who are there for them even if they are there for those people in return. So the people out there busted their butt being friends with somebody who can't bother truly being your friend, STOP. I am not saying you shouldn't help people when they need help. But there is no reason to drop your plans or rearrange your life for somebody who only has something to do with you when they want something. Why should you be the only one putting forth the effort? There are always exceptions and always times people don't live up to your expectations, and when you won't live up to theirs. And that's fine, that's life and you have to understand that. But when they never live up to it, don't lower your expectations, move on. And if the only live up to it when they think your aren't going to be their friend if they don't. I think I'd have a heart to heart with them and then walk away if they can't really be my friend. Now there are the friends where you just naturally drift apart, that's fine and that is life also. You don't have to write them off. You can make the effort to be friends and if they want to make the effort great. If not well.....